两个人在一起,难免会有意见不和,闹别扭,心情不好的时候...所以,吵架其实应该算是家常便饭...
吵架,可以让彼此更了解对方,增进感情,但是,吵太多会伤了和气,也伤了感情...
吵架时,要记得,不要太执著,学着让一步,不要咄咄逼人...不要在对方已经在努力着的时候,还在另一边坚持己见...
有时候,换个方式对待对方,其实可以让争执减少,快乐加倍...因为事事都有两面...
比如,A因为要赶一些临时的工作而让B等了很久,
1) 如果B一直打电话给A催他,然后,就在电话的另一端,骂起A …这样一来,还在赶着工作的A,一方面,放工前收到临时的工作,不得不做,已经很不好受了,另一方面,有得不到B的谅解,还在另一边,给他施加压力,搞不好,还会连工作也做不好...等到见了面,就会是黑脸对黑脸,气氛变得很疆,那接下来的晚餐或任何活动,都不会进行地很愉快,整个晚上的气氛都被破坏了...就算后来和好了,心里还是会有阴影,因为心情已经被破坏了...但是如果没有和好,接下来的几天,可能还会继续地吵...两个人的心情都会很糟糕...最极端的,可能还会因此分手...
2) 与其一直打电话给A催他,试着多一份耐心等着,到处走走,或找个地方坐下来等...当A到达时,露出开心的笑容,迎接A,那A也会多了一份内疚,和感激B对他的宽容及耐心...那接下来的晚餐或任何活动,都会进行地很愉快...可能你会认为,那B不会很委屈吗? 可是如果爱着对方,受一点委屈或吃一点亏又算什么呢? 可是,A如果每一次都这样,那就不能怪B的不谅解了...
总的来说,适当的争执或吵架,是为了走更长远的路,但是,要适可而止,千万别让小小的争执或吵架一发不可收拾...
Monday, April 6, 2009
吵架是为了走更长远的路?
Posted by Purple Bell at 9:11 PM
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4 comments:
Nice new blog design!!!
Hmm..I think that if one decides that the one should move on, it should be a properly thought-through decision when one is calm...the words "let's spilt up" should not be shouted out in a moment of fury...
I guess in our current environment, it is inevitable that we are sometimes too tied up with work to be able to spend time with our loved ones...but it doesn't mean that we value our work more than our loved ones...and who won't want to spend that time with him / her? Who would prefer to spend the time at work?!?
Stranger
Stranger - well said! indeed, who would prefer to spend the time at work if we can spend the time with him / her...
Thanks :)
loves the photo at the very top!!!
a lot of things work both ways...
just be more understanding with each other.... am sure he also trying his best on his part...
:)
JY - yes, i agree...things work both ways...just give n take ba :)
Thanks
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